As you enter married life, you must accept that it won’t always be sunshine and daisies. Throughout the marriage, conflicts, disagreements, and serious fights may happen sometimes. It’s because married couples with probably different personalities might collide when deciding for particular matters where they have contrary beliefs or views.
Marital conflicts or issues may range from the minor to major ones. Some of these are possibly the division of household chores, deciding what to eat for dinner or concerns about different parenting styles.
So, when the misunderstanding escalates, and the situation intensifies, it takes a whole village to resolve a married couple’s fight. With that, get along with the next few pages and find out how married couples can resolve marital conflicts without compromising their marriage and affection.
1. Seek help from the professionals by going for marriage counselling with your spouse
Marriage counselling is a form of psychotherapy that helps married couples find their way out through a specific marital conflict or issue. Married couples who seek help through marriage counselling are likely thriving to keep the same level of physical and emotional intimacy they had on day one after years of living together.
Marriage counselling experts provide married couples with pieces of advice and unparalleled support in resolving the array of conflicts they might be going through. May it be related to their emotions, infidelity, infertility, trust problems, lack of sex or intimacy, communication issues, differences in parenting styles, the plan of having kids, and the list goes on.
But, marriage counsellors don’t only provide help or solutions to married couple’s conflicts or issues, okay? Marriage counsellors also help couples iron things out the best way possible by enhancing their conflict management capabilities.
See how marriage counselling can revive a dying marriage by reading this one: Relation-TIPS: 4 Ways Couples Counselling Can Save Your Failing Marriage.
2. Resonate a welcoming atmosphere for open communication
Another healthy way to resolve an ongoing conflict or issue within the marriage is to resonate a welcoming atmosphere for open and more comfortable communication between you and your spouse. If you and your partner are transparent with how you feel all the time, then things would be more manageable for both of you.
A welcoming environment means that you and your spouse are both in a clear and calm state of mind. You must also consider the timing when asking your partner to discuss marital issues, not bombarding them with rants and aggressiveness after a tiring day at work.
Another essential thing that you might want to consider when discussing issues with your husband or wife is to stay in a room where your children or anyone won’t hear or interfere while you’re trying to smoothen things out.
3. Retain calmness and respect when the situation escalates, or when the conversation intensifies
If mishandled, marital conflicts or issues may lead to severe damage in marriage or unfortunate divorce. Of course, that’s not our goal here. So, another thing married couples should do is to retain calmness when the conflict escalates, or when the situation intensifies.
When discussing an ongoing conflict or issue with your partner, uphold a calm environment, as well as retain respect for one another. There’s no need to throw insulting words to prove your point – you might only hurt your spouse emotionally. And always remember that domestic violence will never help fix the problem in marriage. So, never hurt each other no matter what.
4. Be direct, and talk about the problem but choose to listen to one another as well.
Keeping your feelings to yourself won’t create a positive impact on your marriage. So, choose to talk to your partner about what or how you feel regarding a particular matter.
And as you open up your feelings to your spouse, choose to listen to their thoughts as well. Married couples shouldn’t stop exchanging their thoughts or feelings with their partner, but keep in mind that being a good listener won’t harm the marriage.
The end of marital conflicts and issues is here.
Marital conflicts and issues might come in different forms. Some might be more manageable for married couples, and some might almost put their marriage to its knees.
That’s why with these healthy ways or tips to resolve marital conflicts, we hope to see a more happy marriage. If you know someone who’s also struggling with their married life right now, don’t hesitate to help them revive their marriage by sharing this with them.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kath Ramirez took up journalism as her Bachelor’s Degree with Bachelor of library and information science on the side and now writes for The Relationship Room. It provides psychology services, therapy for couples, families, and individuals. After a busy working week, you’ll either see her binge-watch on Netflix, cuddling with her fur babies, bonding with her family or devouring her mom and sisters’ homemade goodies.
