Social media makes life more exciting but at times it adds more drama to your life than is necessary. When you’re young and in love, you probably think this is it, this is the one, and fill your newsfeed with mushy pictures. It’s sad and unfortunate when it turns out your, ‘one and only, was as much a part of someone else’s news feed as he was of yours. And when you confront him with the evidence through an online chat application he’ll call her his ‘best friend’, or accuse you of being, ‘over possessive’ and other undignified things.
If you have any self-esteem you’ll let go of him, even if it hurts deeply. Later you might even feel stupid for having exposed your personal life too much through your social media account. The following are some tips for dealing with a breakup on social media.
Friends can be lovers but lovers can’t be friends
Handling yourself after a breakup would be a lot easier if you could completely avoid seeing or hearing about your ex. You should unfollow your ex or delete them from your list. Keeping in touch with your ex after they’ve broken up with you can be very damaging for your self-esteem. You can pretend you’re strong but changing your status from ‘lovers’ to ‘friends’ doesn’t work out in the longer run. You’ll never be able to establish a healthy relationship with someone else unless you cut off completely from your ex.
Save yourself while you still can
It isn’t always easy shutting out a person you’ve spent a couple of months or even a couple of weeks with. Depending on the situation though, it might at times be best to block your ex out completely from all your online chat applications. This is a good option to consider if your ex cheated on you or if he was abusive, vocally, or physically. You will never consider dating someone who betrayed your trust because if they did that once they’ll do it again. And if your ex treated you like some object to be used and abused, make sure they never hear from you again.
Move out of the old circle
You might have had some mutual friends but you’ll know whose more loyal to you once the breakup happens. Distance yourself from his friends and avoid visiting his profile. You’ll inevitably find glimpses of your ex on his friend’s wall and will be lured into asking about him. Your ex will somehow find out you’ve been asking about him and this will give him an ego boost. The last thing you want to do is seem desperate in front of someone who broke your heart without any second thoughts.
Go underground and keep them wondering
Break-ups are never easy but you don’t want to announce your suffering to the whole world. You can simply change your status to, ‘single’, and then disappear for a couple of days, or as long as it takes for you to heal. You don’t want people bombarding you with questions on ‘how it happened’ or ‘why it happened. Let’s face it, with so many online friends you can hardly tell which ones are sincere. Some of them might be faking concern so it’s better to take some time off from the cyber world.
Avoid embarrassing yourself
The most regrettable thing you can do is put up statuses about your break-up. You don’t want to expose your feelings to the whole world. Writing about your break-up on your wall would mean giving the matter a lot of attention. People can take screenshots and send them to your ex. You can continue using your social media account and act as if nothing happened. Showing no feeling is the best way to get back at someone who cared little for your feelings.
Be grateful to those who are there
Healing from a breakup is never easy, especially if you’re the one who’s been dumped. Take as much time as you need to let yourself heal and in the process try to focus on people who love you unconditionally. Bond with the people closest to you who have always been there for you and who you can trust with eyes closed. Engage yourself in healthy activities that will distract you from heartbreak. Join a yoga class if your mind is restless and you need to calm your nerves. Join the gym if you are low and lethargic and need the motivation to pull yourself up.
Breaking up with someone can shatter your world, especially if you’re a committed lover. Someone else’s insensitivity can shatter your world to pieces but you shouldn’t lose hope. But when you enter a relationship you should bear in mind that there is no guarantee it will last forever. You can only hope and try but you can’t force someone to stay with you.
When you break up with someone make sure you remove his pictures from your social media account and clear any data you received through online chat applications. You don’t want memories haunting you when you finally decide to move on with someone else.
